I've been thinking about my feelings in relation to a previous relationship... and regardless of the facts the thing that sticks in my mind is that I don't actually hold anything against the person in question at all, the main thing that I resent about my previous relationship is the way I behaved and the situations I placed myself in.
I can critisize other peoples actions as much as I like and pass blame, but at the end of the day I always had the power to make the choice not to accept the situation so the only person I can blame is myself. And in hindsite, I think that's the only person I do blame... any resentment I have shown over time has purely been a cover for the embarasement and revulsion I feel for my own poor behaviour and handling of the incidents.
Well... that's enough drunk rambling... fall over time :)